Please suggest a urologist

I am a 30yr old male working in Honolulu and I have had ED problems  since I was 20 years old. I am looking for a good urologist here who  will take the time to help with my problems.    I have had girlfriends every now and then but eventually they have  left because my performance was either impossible or very rare.  Lately I find my libido also dropping off significantly.    Very recently I have a new girlfriend and I really want to make it  this time with her. I cannot discuss this because the relationship  is too new and I really don’t want to scare her off. But I know she  is very interested in sex and has lot of experience. I tried Cialis  ordered from the internet twice in 20mg doses and it had only tepid  results. It also felt like I had a flu, which made me rather  disinterested in sex!    I am wondering now perhaps I have some more serious health issue  based on comments from people on this (God-sent) forum. I would like  some suggestions for a sympathetic urologist in this city. Also  would like your comments.